THE BOOK

#HAPPYxCOOL dealing with an alternative approach to happiness.

It provides the know-how and experience you need to free yourself from constraints, and other obstacles that can occur in relationships, marriages and at work. It also presents a “cool” view on how to not make your happiness a victim, but how to turn this crisis into an opportunity to become happier.

The authors support the work by “happiness” related blogs and podcasts, postings on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram, and video appearances on YouTube.

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THE BOOK CONTENT

CHAPTER 1  

IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS

  • BEING HAPPY IS “COOL”
  • HAPPINESS: A SOCIAL OBLIGATION?
  • NO “RIGHT” WAY TO HAPPINESS
  • THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY
  • HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
  • HAPPINESS: FEELING OR EMOTION?      
  • HAVING PLEASURE, FEELING GOOD, BEING WELL

MANAGING OBSTACLES TO HAPPINESS

  • FREEDOM OF MIND
  • BEING “COOL”
  • REDEFINE OBSTACLES INTO OPPORTUNITIES
  • COVID-19 PANDEMIC AS AN EXAMPLE

CHAPTER 2

HAPPINESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

LOVE AND HAPPINESS

  • TRUE LOVE VERSUS FALSE LOVE
  • LOVE AND ATTACHMENT
  • JEALOUSY
  • THE FEAR OF LOSS AND THE WISH TO CONTROL
  • SPACE TO BREATHE
  • ROMANTIC COMPLICITY
  • DOES LOVE LEAD TO HAPPINESS?
  • SELF-LOVE

RELATIONSHIPS

  • RELATIONSHIPS ARE SMALL MIRACLES
  • RELATIONSHIPS CHANGE
  • SHARING FOR HAPPINES
    • SHARING
    • COMMUNICATIONS
  • THE SIGNIFICANCE OF MEANING

MARITAL HAPPINESS

  • MARRIAGE – A TRADITIONAL INSTITUTION
  • THE LIFE-LONG MARRIAGE CONCEPT
  • THE PRIORITY OF HAPPINESS
  • BONDING FACTORS
  • EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL INFLUENCERS
  • SPACE TO BREATHE
  • SECRETS AND TRUST
  • FIREDOORING
  • DISPUTES

LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS

  • EXPECTATIONS
  • COMMUNICATIONS
  • TRUST
  • AWKWARDNESS
  • COMPLICITY IS A PLUS
  • PRO’S AND CON’S

CONFRONTATIONAL RELATIONSHIP

  • COMPETING PARTNERS
  • CHILDREN IN A CONFRONTATIONAL RELATIONSHIP
  • BAD BEHAVIOR
  • OTHER SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
    • NO AFFECTION AND INTIMACY
    • DISTANCING
    • DEGRADING BEHAVIOR
    • STONEWALLING
    • NAGGING
    • DISREGARD
    • ONLINE INFIDELITY

CHILDREN AND HAPPINESS

  • PARENTHOOD CAN AFFECT HAPPINESS
  • HAPPY WITH CHILDREN
  • EARLY AGREEMENT ON PRINCIPLES
  • THE CHILDREN’S HAPPINESS IS PRIORITY
  • THE IMPORTANCE OF PLAYING
  • MAKE IT A “COOL” DECISION

FRIENDSHIP AND HAPPINESS

  • BEING SOCIAL MAKES HAPPY
  • TRUE FRIENDS VERSUS FAKE FRIENDS
  • THE “FAMILY OF CHOICE”

SEXUALITY AND HAPPINESS

  • EROS AND SEX
  • SEXUALITY IS NO SIN
  • BE “COOL” TO BE FREE
  • UNSATISFACTORY SEX
    • NO SEX
    • BAD SEX
    • PORNOGRAPHY

CHAPTER 3

HAPPINESS AT WORK

THE WORK-PRIVATE SPHERE INTER-RELATIONSHIP

  • ATTITUDES
  • FENDING OFF MUTUAL INFLUENCING
  • SELF-DISCIPLINE

STRESS AT WORK AND HAPPINESS

  • THE STRESS-HAPPINESS CONNECTION
  • PRINCIPAL SOURCES OF STRESS
  • PROBLEM-ORIENTED COPING
  • TARGETED AND DETERMINED ACTION
  • RID YOURSELF OF TASKS

THE “I-SHOULD”-TRAP

  • THE ROLE OF UNSPOKEN NORMS
  • PLACING “COOLNESS” AND HAPPINESS IN THE CENTER

PEOPLE CAUSING UNHAPPINESS

THE DISLIKED BOSS
  • UNFAIRNESS
  • NO APPRECIATION FOR YOUR WORK
  • MANAGEMENT STYLE
  • NO VISION
  • POSSIBLE REACTIONS
  • COMPLAINING TO THE SUPERIOR OF YOUR BOSS
TOXIC CO-WORKERS
  • HEAD-TO-HEAD ENCOUNTER
  • INVOLVING THE SUPERVISOR

NON-PERSONAL FACTORS CAUSING UNHAPPINESS

CAREER UNHAPPINESS
  • WHAT’S FIRST: HAPPINESS OR SUCCESS?
  • REASONS FOR CAREER UNHAPPINESS
    • TOO YOUNG TO CHOOSE
    • NO TRAINING
    • BEING TRAPPED
    • FRUSTRATED AMBITION
  • REGAINING CONTROL
  • ALTERNATIVE OPTIONS
ORGANIZATIONAL UNHAPPINESS
  • NO PRIDE
  • BAD WORK CULTURE
    • BAD CORPORATE CULTURE
    • BAD WORKPLACE CONDITIONS
  • COMMUNICATION: KEY FOR HAPPINESS
  • TRENDT: CHIEF HAPPINESS OFFICER/CONSULTANTS
WORKLOAD AND OVERTIME
FEELING UNDERPAID
BOREDOM AT WORK
  • MENTALLY UNDERCHALLENGED
  • HUMAN NEED FOR ACTIVE LIFE
  • HOW TO BEAT BOREDOM AT WORK?
  • SELF-MOTIVATION IS KEY
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